Monday, August 18, 2014

Distressed

Well, well, well. It's been quite awhile since we have had a heart to heart talk my sweet reader. I reckon you've been avoiding it just as much as I have. It's okay no harmed feelings. Sometimes it's okay to shy away and deal with things face to face and on your own. And then again sometimes it's not. So here I am! Today we shall talk about distress.

Distress - Great pain, anxiety, or sorrow; acute physical or mental suffering; affliction; trouble.

There's no way to sugar coat that. I want to say I have been feeling quite blue this past week and I couldn't put a finger on what that emotion was called. Then I thought about princesses and the word came to me quickly. I'm quite distressed. I feel like a headless chicken running around in circles; I'm not dying and I'm not living either. *well that escalated quickly. 

Being distressed isn't as glamorous as it seems. No matter what princess acts it out. No one is really going to come and save you, the only one to do that is yourself. But even then that takes awhile too. 

Being distressed means having no answer, no solution. To anything really. And it sucks! There's no other way to put it, it sucks it sucks. You feel hopeless, dumbfounded, aggravated, overall stupid. (Again, headless chicken.) All emotions demand to be felt. That we all know, being distressed it sorta comes with it, you don't know what to do, you don't know what to say, you don't know how to fix it, you sit there, blank. And all you do is feel. You feel the pain, the anxiety, the sorrow, the suffering. You feel it all. Next thing you know you are a ball of nerves and the veins in your neck are about to choke you and you don't know weather to explode or pass out. I wish I can turn this emotion around and find some sort of faith in it, but really any sort of happiness/joy you try to affiliate with distress is fake. It's that fake smile, fake laugh, fake everything we do to try and cover it up. 

I over think things, I sometimes under think things. Sometimes I think of nothing and I feel like a complete failure because I should be thinking of something. Something to improve my life, enhance it, enjoy it, live up to it, be successful with, I should be thinking of something instead of nothing. Sometimes everything is a bit overwhelming and no one else is at fault but ourselves. It sounds a bit harsh and all, but we put ourselves in this position we sike ourselves out. I mean there is a reason the word stress is in the word distress. We put a crazy amount of pressure on ourselves, to be the ideal person we want to be as well as the person other people hope for us to be. 

The trick is getting through your fit in one piece and casually shaking it off afterwards. Huge emphasis on *casually. And then ask; Okay, what did I learn from my moment of complete darkness and distress? This is where you surprise yourself because even if moments ago you were completely blank in the head, after everything settles . . . you learn a lot. Not always do you know what the solution is but you know what it is you need at the moment. Even it's something as simple as a cup of tea or a nap. Make sure that is fulfilled. Baby steps aren't just for babies! I'm a huge advocate of that. Usually the things you are stressed about end up being very common things to be stressed about. It's comforting to know people embark the same fits as you do. I mean it sucks, but it makes your crazy self feel a little normal. 

I feel better I got all of that out. Another great example of what to do. UNLOAD YOUR LOAD. Yes, I know that sounds a bit vulgar but we are talking about a specific kind of load. The load that is on your shoulders and weighing heavily on your heart. Although extinguishing the other type of load would also be a good stress extinguishing help. *again, that escalated quickly. It's okay we are in our sweet little bubble you and me . . . we can talk about this stuff shamelessly. (poop) Anywaysssssss, a way to feel everything less heavy to carry, talk about it, write about it, sing about it, dance about it, cry about it, sleep about it, eat about it (not too much), any way that you feel yourself have less and less to feel anxious and worried about, do it. 


Well my sweet reader, I hope this has helped in more ways than none. I send you a huge warm hug. And remember . . . we all go a little mad sometimes. 




See You Later.


Monday, August 11, 2014

Playlist

Hello there. It's been a little while. *awkward chuckle Okay it's been two weeks, it's kinda my fault and kinda not. I hope you all have been having good days and enjoying what is left of summer or the first couple days of school. Either way here are some songs to help you take all of that in.

I really like this song because of the vibe it sets, but the video especially makes me smile. A lot. Cats.
Mmmmmmm the beats, oh the beats in this song. Makes me want to dance away in oblivion.
There's so much to say about this song, there is so much meaning behind it. I can't help but to think of it as an anthem for women. If the words don't already make you feel some type of way the video sure will. Also this song I dedicate to all of you girlies reading this, especially one in particular, you know who you are.
Sia you never seize to amaze me, all of her music is just . . . just . . there's no word for it. Her voice will grasp your soul and it will be the best feeling ever.
Stay With Me - Sam Smith
I can't believe that such a soulful voice comes from Sam, he doesn't look like one to carry it. But boy does he. His voice is like butter. Yep that's how I'm going to explain it. Butter.
A song worth repeating. Over and over and over again.
A soothing song, for the good ol' aching soul. I do admit if I let myself dive into this song fully, the tears stream down my face. Good tears nonetheless.


Well my sweet reader I hope these songs help you in more ways than none when it comes to getting through the week. Or getting through anything really, I think there's a little message within every single one. 

See You Later

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